What is integrity?
Integrity is when your thoughts, words, feelings, and actions all align with your goals and intentions.
This is one of the places I see so many people fall short.
A few questions you can ask yourself…
* Are you doing things that in your heart you know you
don’t want to do?
* Are you saying yes when you really mean no?
* Are you focused on other people’s problems instead of
looking inward and focusing on your own?
* Are you making excuses for your actions? Are you taking
responsibility for your life?
Today I will give you some specific steps to help you live in integrity!
Everything we discussed the past 4 weeks truly is the foundation to living with integrity: getting grounded, getting clear on your intentions, aligning with your body’s needs, and aligning with your true self. Once you get centered, you can focus on what you really want and how it feels in your body! As your body gives you messages (through physical feelings, pain, or emotions) you have the choice to either take action or to ignore your feelings.
Let’s take things a step deeper and look at what our emotions (fear, anger, and grief) are really trying to telling us.
Fear (Is it real or is it in your head?)
Fear! Fear may show up in many different forms: anxiety, worry, compulsive behaviors, even over eating. When we deny our fears or get paralyzed by them they start to control our life. One question you can ask yourself about fear is… Is it real? Or is it in your head? Fear often arises when we overthink. We literally create our fears! Addictions often arise when we deny our fears (avoid facing them). We will crave the need to do something so your fears or thoughts don’t have time to arise. The best way to overcome fear is to face it! First identify when you are feeling anxious, afraid, the need to over eat or give in to addictive behaviors. Next take a moment to ask yourself what are you afraid of or what are you avoiding? Then take action. Take an action step towards either concurring your fear or changing your thoughts. Once you start facing your fears they will no longer have power over you!
Anger (the gut’s response to take action)
Most people see anger as a negative emotion. As a child you may remember being sent to your room when you were angry. Or maybe you were told don’t say another word! This conditioning leads many people to believe that they don’t have a voice or that they can’t tell people no. So they quickly become a people pleaser and offer peace at any price! Does this sound like you? I know I have been there! The emotion anger offers us the opportunity to set boundaries. When we fail to feel it or take action, we lose boundaries, start allowing people to control us, or we do things we don’t want to do. This can lead to feeling like we don’t have a voice, tiredness, grief, and depression. To use your anger positively, first identify when you are feeling angry. Next, I recommend taking a few minutes to reflect/ journal to identify why you are angry and taking a look at the situation to see if there are any boundaries you need to set. Then take action. It is your divine right to be happy and you deserve it!
Grief (what is your heart telling you?)
Grief is more than morning a loved one or a lost relationship grief can also be morning our choices. Take a moment to think of a time when you were feeling sad, maybe a time you felt you need to cry. Do you feel heaviness in your chest or does your chest feel tight? Is hard for you to breathe and take in fresh air?
Grief is about letting go of the old and taking in the new! When we are able to let go (for ex: cry) it allows our body to relax. When we don’t fully let go (grieve) it causes things to get tight, we don’t get as much oxygen, and we aren’t able to full accept new experiences. When you feel depressed, sad, or heaviness in your chest or upper back this is a signal that you need to let go. Take the opportunity to feel,
journal, cry, reflect, and forgive! In my experience I have noticed that grief often arises when we don’t
feel our anger or fear. We somehow become upset with ourselves and grieve the things that we have missed out on or the boundaries that we have lost. When we align our body, mind, and emotions with our true heart’s and soul’s desires it opens our hearts to receive joy and self-love!
Practice noticing and exploring your emotions and feelings, and taking action towards what they are calling you to do. This will help you to live in integrity and in alignment with your self! Please keep in mind this is something that takes practice and does not happen overnight so be compassionate with yourself during your process. Use the tools that we have discussed over the last 5 weeks to practice noticing and exploring different parts of yourself. In the beginning it may be uncomfortable you might feel nervous, anxious, or finding the inner kid inside kicking and screaming, throwing a temper tantrum. That’s normal and 100% ok :0) I love you and am so grateful to have you in my community!
This week’s action steps:
1. Practice noticing your emotions and how you are feeling
2. Take a few moments to reflect on how you are feeling
3. Pick one action step that you can take (journal, speaking up, taking action, setting a boundary etc)
Thank you so much for being a part of my Five Point Plan to Living in Alignment! It was so much fun :0)
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